Lose You To Find Me

– Erik J. Brown –

Balzer + Bray

Published 16 May 2023




I had really big expectations for Lose You To Find Me. All That’s Left In The World is one of my favourite books, so this second book by Erik J Brown had a lot to live up to. No pressure! It’s a very different book in many ways. Lose You To Find Me is a contemporary novel, a novel of self discovering, of growing up and making big decisions about the future, of food, friendship and first love.

Tommy has a dream to follow in his father’s footsteps and attend culinary college, finishing what his father couldn’t. Working as a server at Sunset Estates, a retirement home, is helpings him get the experience he needs. He just needs a recommendation letter from his boss. When she sets a series of tasks for him to complete, he is determined to do what it takes, even if it means training the new hire. The boy he fell in love with at summer camp as a kid. Even if that boy, all grown up now, doesn’t seem to recognise him.

Lose You To Find Me is fun novel.

I really loved the side characters. The cast of personalities we meet, from Tommy’s fellow servers and friends at Sunset Estates to the residents themselves.

Spoiler ahead: My only disappointment was that I got to the point where I was really hoping Tommy would get over Gabe and move on. And that’s where the story is leading, it just takes a lot longer to play out than I liked. Move on already!! But that’s part of Tommy’s journey and the title kind of gives it away.

This is a book about discovering who Tommy is and where he is meant to be in the world, and accepting himself for who he is.

The publishers provided an advanced readers copy of this book for reviewing purposes. All opinions are my own.

More information

Category: Young Adult fiction

Genre: Contemporary

Themes: Cooking, identity, relationships, friendship, retirement living, food, LGBTQIA+ relationships

Reading age guide: Ages 13 and up.

Published: 16 May 2023 by Balzer+Bray

Format: Hardcover, ebook. 368 pages.

ISBN: 9780063055025

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